Losing a job whether by choice, by lay off or by being fired, sets the wheels of grief in motion. We are not only faced with the loss of our paychecks, which is our security, but also the loss of routine, the friends we had at work, our self esteem, our life style, etc.

Our anger can fester and block our healing as we tend to blame the person who fired us or laid us off. We may blame the company for lack of fiscal responsibility if we got laid off or the company shut down. We may even blame ourselves for not seeing the handwriting on the wall and making preparations. This anger and grief, until healed, will most likely block many good job opportunities that come your way.

Take sometime to write a letter to the person or company you feel responsible for your job loss. Separate, tell them what they could have done to protect you and your job. Tell them what a loyal, hard working employee you were. Tell them what you liked about your job.

Ponder your feelings at this time. Did you even like this job? If so, thank them for the opportunity to work there. Tell them you now know that there is even a better job waiting for you and you are going to find it. If you didn’t like the job – thank God you are finally out of there. Tell whoever that you wish you had left before you were asked to go but since you didn’t, you accept the situation in totality and are looking forward to new career opportunities.