Make a list of the unanswered questions that haunt you. This list will most likely not get finished in one sitting. Really work hard at digging deep inside yourself and hold nothing back. The only stupid question is the one unasked. With patience, and in time, each and every answer will be provided to you in many, many different ways.

When my daughter died of a car accident, my only immediate question was, did she suffer? I felt emotional and physical angst for 6 months over that question. One day on one of the TV morning shows, a doctor explained that the brain emits a chemical that stops the body from feeling any pain immediately upon a traumatic injury. After that, I became unstuck in my grief recovery and I began moving forward with healing my heart as I learned my baby did not suffer as I had so feared.

Be sure to review these questions regularly, add to them and cross them out when answered. The important thing here is to understand that you have questions needing answers. Writing them down will help you to be open to receive the answers and crossing them out reinforces that the answers eventually do find us. You will find that the clearing up of the mysteries surrounding your loss will be very healing.