Post traumatic stress is not reserved just for witnessing the miseries of war or experiencing a horrible crime. There can be traumas in is an everyday experiences. Trauma lingers, it’s as simple as that. It shows up regularly in all of life’s events. The same traumatic experience will have different residual effects of trauma on different people.

Some examples of these simple pre and post loss traumas could be watching a loved one suffer in their last days of cancer or witnessing an accident whether fatal or not. The anticipation of telling your spouse and children you were fired from your job is also traumatic. The funeral process, the lack of a funeral, or your inability to participate in the funeral, all present traumatic energy that needs releasing and healing.

To heal, one must recognize first that you have been traumatized. This is different than shock. What particular event or circumstance that you experienced brought the trauma on for you? It was months after her mother lost her battle with cancer that Diane was still stressing regularly over how her mother, in horrible pain, suffered before she died. Her body was put through grueling medical procedures, as is customary in western medicine to prolong her life. As Diane finally discovered, it was her mother’s own fear of death that kept her hanging on.

In order for Diane to work through the pre-loss trauma she was experiencing she worked on dealing with her own fear of death as well she eventually accepted that her mother’s own issues were responsible for how she died and there was nothing Diane could really do to stop it. She had to accept the events surrounding her mother’s death as those belonging to her mother and not her.

Describe the trauma that is part of including every detail which may have been extremely uncomfortable for you. The more detailed you are, the easier the healing. Now, ask your creator in letter form for the energy and wisdom to understand why this horrible experience became your experience. Ask what the lesson is for you to understand and learn.

Ask for the strength to surrender your memories and visions of the trauma to a new picture of peace and acceptance of the experience. Since every experience we have is about us healing our entire thoughts and ideas, ask for the perfect healing for you.

If you have figured out what you were to learn from the experience, tell God what it is and then thank him/her for the experience. List what YOU will do or think differently about now that you have grown through the shock and stress.

Finally, thank the person who left, who guided you into this experience. Let the person know that you are grateful for the sacrifice her/she made to help you become a more enlightened being.